Self-Will in Daily Life

Self-Will in Daily Life

I will, I will, and I will; I think, and this is my opinion, and that is my opinion! But the other person or persons also want something or have an opinion! And very often they want something else and think something else! What shall we do about it? What do you usually do about it?

When it concerns those to whom we are to be in subjection according to God’s Word, things are simple. We are to carry out the superior’s will in everything except when he wants us to commit sin, for example, lie.

A husband should give his wife some money which she is free to use as she chooses, thus demonstrating his confidence in her and honoring her and increasing her love for her husband.

On the other hand, when it concerns two sisters who are on an equal footing who live together, it is extremely vital to make use of this especially suitable sentence for this situation: “As you wish, my beloved sister!” The noble art is to be quicker than the other person by expressing this charmingly good temperament!!! “Love . . . is kind . . . .” 1 Cor. 13:4.

Otherwise, their relationship could easily deteriorate to the point where the one becomes the mistress and the other, up to a point, can begin to resemble the mistress’s lapdog. We must watch and pray, otherwise almost anything can happen. Inclinations are innumerable.

We have Jesus’ own words from His battle in Gethsemane as a radiant example: “Not My will, but Yours, be done.” Luke 22:42. This is the way for all of us in all situations.

Then we have the exceedingly great apostle Paul’s expert words concerning this profound area: “Just as I also [strive to] please all men in all things . . . .” 1 Cor. 10:33. The Swedish translation says, “Yielding in all things to all men . . . .”

This fits well together with these words: “Wisdom is more agile than all agility.”1 In other words, it is the direct opposite of being stiff and obstinate, conceited, stubborn, and self-willed.

“As you wish, my friend,” is often fitting for everyone to say, especially in daily life. It is very calming and helpful.